Emotional intelligence is defined as the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one’s emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically. It starts within you. The focus is “you”. 

Psychologist Daniel Goleman identified the key personal and interpersonal skills involved in emotional intelligence. They are self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills. Self-awareness is about recognizing and understanding your emotions – what you’re feeling and why. The next step is self-regulation but first, you need to master emotional awareness to manage your emotions. Managing the negative emotions, particularly in an effective way.

Motivation also plays a role in emotional intelligence. It is about your drive to improve and achieve. It is important to set a high standard for yourself and work consistently towards it. Another key element is empathy. Empathy is your ability to put yourself in someone else’s shoes and see the situation from their perspective. This is also about being aware of others’ feelings.

Therefore if you have good emotional intelligence you have good social skills which are important in achieving success. They will make up for a great leader because they are trustworthy team players and a good listener. Leaders who have good social skills are also good at managing change and resolving conflicts diplomatically.

Start harnessing your emotional intelligence now. Examine yourself and be aware of your emotions and how to deal with them. Emotional intelligence is the key to both personal and professional success.